Things I Learned About Weddings / Puerto Rico / Julio Larregoity

June 23, 2014

 

Things I Learned About Weddings In 2012
Read full article here Written by: JP Reynolds-Wedding Officiant, Author, Communications Coach

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I read this and I coudn’t resist the temptation to share it in my blog…Enjoy.
“Why do I love weddings? The simple answer is that I love stories. Every couple that comes to me not only has a story, every couple is a story!
Why do I love weddings? I love them because I continually stand in awe of people’s courage and daring and hope. It’s simply not possible to commit to another person without the courage, daring and hope that necessarily undergirds all faith and love.
I love weddings because I love looking at a couple’s guests as they mingle about before the ceremony and then as they sit in anticipation of the ceremony’s start. I love feeling the wave of emotion that ripples throughout the gathering.
I look at the guests and I know that they know how brutally tough and demanding life can be — that not every day can be as joyful as that day, BUT I see the hope and the excitement in their eyes.
I love standing in the middle of so much hope.
In 2012 I met some wonderfully interesting and interestingly wonderful couples. Here are things about weddings (in no particular order) that these couples taught, reminded and showed me.
  • The greatest gift parents can give to their children are the words: “This is your wedding, so whatever you want is fine with us.” These generous, selfless words relieve pressure, diffuse tension and let a couple plan from a place of fun and enjoyment.
  • There is no one “correct” way to celebrate your wedding — the only right way is the way that makes sense to you. Trust your instincts. Be creative. Be you.
  • No 2-year-old should have to walk down a long aisle by him or herself with a hundred “giants” looking on, oohing, ahing, and snapping photos! I’ve seen too many bewildered, terrified 2-year-olds — let them at least walk with another child who is a few years older (and WHY would you want to entrust real rings with a toddler?!)
  • The money you spend on a wedding coordinator is the best money you’ll spend on your wedding! A coordinator is there to worry about the details that you, your mother, or best friend should not have to be concerned about on your wedding day.
  • I’ve yet to meet a bride who was myopically obsessed with having the “perfect” day who truly enjoyed the day or who didn’t turn into a Bridezilla. Your goal is to create a memory that will cause people to smile five years later. From that goal perfection will flow. But if you begin with focusing solely on the perfection, you’ll soon forget what “magic” looks and feels like.

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  • It is also possible to create a ceremony that honors different cultures and traditions in a way that unites rather than divides all present. It is possible to weave varying traditions in a way that doesn’t create “dueling deities” or one-upmanship.
  • Your wedding really is a gift to family and friends — no matter how jaded we can get, we all hunger for meaning and for something/someone we can place our hope in.
  •  Lastly, couples that try not to cry in the ceremony make some very odd faces! I’ve looked at brides and grooms and thought they were bored or angry or on the verge of having a seizure. Then, they later explained: “I didn’t want to cry so I tried not to blink.” You’ve spent so much time, energy, emotion and money on this moment and then you go ahead and focus on not blinking?! I say, cry all you want — besides, if the groom cries guests feel like they got their money’s worth and will slip an extra $50 into the envelope!”

 

Read full article here http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jp-reynolds/10-things-i-learned-about_b_2406943.html